I can't cum during blowjob, is that normal? guys and girls help

By Hung_low_d · Man / Likes Women / Single

Ok so first off like every guy I love love love getting blowjobs. However my only problem is that I have never ever been able to cum during one. My girlfriend is amazing at it I mean she goes above and beyond licking up down and even the balls. It feels like I get really close but I just cant get off and usually have to have sex to finally orgasm. It has been this way with all past girlfriends but now she is doubting her skills because I can never orgasm. Ive tried saying its me not her but it is still not working for her. Girls have you have had a bf who has been like this or Guys are any of you like this and please help. She is amazing and really loves doing it but as i said is doubting her abilities

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Alamb

Alamb / Woman / Likes Men / In a relationship

Mine had the opposite problem. The last boyfriend before my current could cum during a blowjob or handjob but never during sex.
Sometimes you just can't. Most of it is in your brain. Some people tend to think of other things that just don't do the trick.
IE- What am I eating for dinner?
lol.
In all seriousness, it's not an actual issue seeing as how you can cum. The issue might be that you're subconsciously thinking of something else. Maybe you're afraid you have an odor or maybe you just aren't focused enough. Orgasms mainly deal with whats going on in your mind.
Personal Advice- 1) Ask her to have sex more often rather than blowjobs.
2) Try something new. Get in a different position, talk dirty, etc.
3) Think a little. Use your imagination. My boyfriend was addicted to constriction. He loved tying me up, handcuffing me, etc. If you get yourself on the edge think of everything that makes you hot.
4) If the push comes to shove, start counting, when you're on edge. Sometimes your body will get irritated with you because you're trying to ignore the fact that you're feeling good. You're your brain and body's bitch. If you try to ignore it they want to do anything to make sure that you can't.
Just some suggestions. Try it out solo maybe. Who knows. They may be your answers.


eJefe

eJefe / 49 / Man / Likes Women / Single

I don't think it's unusual, I have trouble coming from BJ's too. I think it's because the sensations are different from intercourse, not because of any lack of skill from my partners.


Hung_low_d

Hung_low_d / Man / Likes Women / Single

Thank you very much for the help everyone. I've always felt self conscious about this and just came across this wonderful site just today and everyone that's replied both guys and girls have been amazing and reassuring


Hung_low_d

Hung_low_d / Man / Likes Women / Single

Thank you very much for the help everyone. I've always felt self conscious about this and just came across this wonderful site just today and everyone that's replied both guys and girls have been amazing and reassuring


Hung_low_d

Hung_low_d / Man / Likes Women / Single

Thank you very much for the help everyone. I've always felt self conscious about this and just came across this wonderful site just today and everyone that's replied both guys and girls have been amazing and reassuring


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